This is coming from a rather strong yet hurt and an optimistic me.
Someday, in this very small world, when you catch up with some old friends and
a few new, you will share your life experiences, current happenings and gain
others experiences and current life situations in return.
And then there is the other side, where you'll be talking about somebody
else's life, and while you do that, somebody is also talking about your life,
and it may not be necessarily true.
There are going to be people talking about you to others,
the very common phrase known as, "talking behind your back" and more
over, it might come as a silly stunt and shock for you, may be even a brutal
one when you hear an untrue rumor about you.
We all love talking about other people and it doesn't
have to be a gossip, and not everyone is the same, so others might be indulging
in some grapevine and you never know you're a hot part of it.
Rumors can get one into unnecessary trouble, may spoil someone's current
life or affect someone's future.
Coming back to what I am trying to tell is, please think
before you talk about someone, while others do not do so, you could start and
bring a change if not a major one but a small one.
In a country like India, where everyone is really bothered about the life
of others, what do they do, how do they live, and like to intervene in their
life, some even want to indulge into nasty spoilage, and especially when it
comes to girls.
It is not easy to be a strong, independent, growing
ambitious woman in India. While you hear about a thousand of ambitious
women reaching heights, they have been so strong and willing, looking beyond
horizons to be where they are today.
Then there are other girls, women, who don't think like
the others do, and it is their own wish to be like that, unambitious maybe, or
emotional, more into family, they want to be the way they have been bought up
and above all, it is their choice.
Either way, both these women have one thing in common,
bringing up a family, staring a new life. Whether through a Marriage, a broken
marriage or single hood, however they wish to do it.
While when it comes to marriage, they leave their family and join another one,
become a part of the new family they have newly linked to, change their names,
to an extent even their identities, because after marriage in many cases what
you were before this new beginning does not matter. The girl needs to adapt and
live according to their lifestyle, and some liberal - broad minded modern
families help the girl to be herself and adjust along with her and make her
feel at home.
Her future could be beautiful or even a night mare.
And a beautiful future or a future full of nightmare
includes internal and external factors.
Internal here, consists of the girl, her family, her husband, her new family.
External are the relatives and the World.
In India, if you are getting married, irrespective of an arranged or love,
there is something called as "Inquiry", you know like the Police
inquiry?
Here relatives, acquaintances, friends, and other
external links help gather information about the Boy (to be groom) and the Girl
(to be bride).
The common criteria are, one - status, two - family background, three -
Horoscope match and the fourth highly important, CHARACTER, all of this comes
way before the girl and boy have met, it doesn't matter if you know each other
for years and are in love, and have tested your compatibility, fallen in love
and understand the rapport with each other, know what you want, know that why
you want to marry, NO.
Leaving out the first three, when it comes to the
Character of the groom or bride, information is collected through external
families, relatives, common friends or not, and other links.
Coming back to where I started, RUMORS.
Imagine, being asked about through the wrong people, the ones who are against
you, jealous of you and others who have nothing at all to do with you but know
something about that NEEDS TO BE TOLD.
A girl, from a good family, her father’s princess, her
mother’s pillar, ambitious, rich by heart, caring, probably a perfect package,
but, with 100 of untrue rumors behind her and she doesn't even know that.
Before she could even step into a beautiful future, it
gets shattered because of misunderstandings or because one person believed
those rumors even before they met the girl.
If you are a BOY, not educated, less educated, highly
educated, ambitious or not, rich family or not, but your family wishes for a
girl that fits their family the best, she's given the freedom to continue being
who she is or live according to the roots and grounded rules by the new family.
What happens to her future?
Your tongue, your words could either do good or bad, to
yourself or anyone.
Why talk bad about someone who's done nothing to you?
And even if they did, why spoil their life?
You are not God, you are not Karma, you are not the owner
of your own life then why want to be of theirs?
You may be spreading rumors for fun, because you're not thinking.
Do you know how small this world has become not geographically but through
connections?
Need I say more? Need I write more?
We can only be aware of what can stir
up.
For a change be quiet, shut up, gossip but don't pass on the gossip, believe in Karma.
Love,
Trippy.
